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An Attendant’s Guide to a Bachelor or Bachelorette Party

Jennifer Nodjak Etiquette, Make it Posh, Weddings Leave a Comment

You’ve been selected to act as an attendant at a friend’s wedding. Congratulations! Whether you are an honor attendant such as a Best Man or Maid of Honor, or are playing a different role, it is definitely an honor to have been asked! Once the initial flattery has worn off, you might start thinking about all of the things that need to be done before a wedding, including hosting your buddy’s bachelor or bachelorette party.

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How does an attendant get started? Here are the major steps to putting together a fabulous “goodbye” to single life:

  • Begin with a discussion with your fellow attendants. Try to determine who will be in charge of the planning, and who is committed to helping the planner put on a great party. Tradition aside, it’s not okay to “require” a fellow attendant to participate, and it’s not safe to assume that every attendant can support the efforts financially. Have frank, yet kind, discussions about responsibilities, laying everything out from the very beginning to avoid miscommunication.
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  • Request a list from the guest or guests of honor. Ask for the names of guests they hope will attend, and make sure to get complete contact information for each person including name, address, phone number and email address (as well as age if anyone is under 21, special dietary requests, etc.).
  • Coordinate the best date for all of the attendants as well as the couple.
  • Reserve space and begin the planning.
  • Send invitations to the friends on the guest of honor’s list.
  • Collect RSVPs
  • Host an amazing celebration
  • Provide guest information to the couple so they can properly thank each guest in writing.

Advanced planning and open communication are the keys to planning and hosting incredible bachelor and bachelorette parties. Start brainstorming and gathering ideas to share with your own planning team today!

We LOVE to hear fun ideas and see pictures from past bachelor or bachelorette parties – send them our way!

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